All friends, check out my Blog Party that is going on in honor of National Infertility Awareness Week. I have already made many new friends!
For all those who are not infertile themselves, but know someone who is, this repost of mine is for you. The infertile are not the only ones hurting during this journey. We appreciate all your support.
Friends of the Infertile
My best friend recently asked me how our adoption is going. Unfortunately, I had no news to share with her. This is a conversation I have with many people, so I am used to disappointing people. However, my friend’s response was different than I expected…
My friend knows the struggles “The Pilot” and I have been through with infertility and adoption. She is always kind to ask how things are going, even though she knows that I would run screaming to her doorstep if I had any real news. Normally, she commiserates with me, lets me complain, and then helps me to get my mind off it. That is what I need. However, I never stopped to think what SHE needs.
Friend: “Any news with adoption?”
Me: “Nope, same old, same old. Wait and pray.”
Friend: Big sigh…”I just don’t understand. You are a wonderful couple who will be amazing parents. There are so many others who have kids, but are unable to take care of them. Why doesn’t God give you a baby?”
Me: “He will. It just takes a WHOLE LOT of faith.”
Friend: “Yea, honestly, I am having a hard time with that.”
She is having a hard time. Our struggle is testing her faith. And she is not the only one.
So often I focus on my own sorrow and struggles in this journey. My pain is so raw that I have a hard time seeing past it. I forget that I am not the only one bearing this cross.
I have had many friends and family members express their pain and frustration about our situation. My poor mom went through 6 years of infertility herself and now is watching her daughter go through the same thing. Every other day I learn of a new person praying for us.
So you see, this cross is not just mine or yours…so many people are having their faith tested through our cross. We are not alone. Maybe that is part of the reason for this difficult journey.
When our dreams come true (as I know they will), maybe more good will come from it than we originally imagined.
Maybe our cross can strengthen someone’s faith in God.
That, my friends, would be… pretty. dang. amazing. 🙂
Don’t forget to repay all those friends and family members who are praying for you. Their faith is also being tested and they need prayers just as much as we do.