Once there were two women who never knew each other
One you do not remember, the other you call mother
Two different lives shaped to make you one
One became your guiding star, the other became your sun
The first one gave you life, and the second taught you to live it
The first gave you a need for love, the second was there to give it
One gave you a nationality, the other gave you a name
One gave you a talent, the other gave you aim
One gave you emotions, the other calmed your fears
One saw your first sweet smile, the other dried you tears
One made an adoption plan, that was all that she could do
The other prayed for a child, and God led her straight to you.
Now, which of these two women, are you the product of?
Both, my darling, both, Just two different types of love.
– Julie Anderson
One of the hardest questions I think adoptive parents face is how to explain adoption to their children. How do you convey a birthmother’s strength and love for her child? When they speak of genetics in school, how do you show the true beauty of your child’s unique, adoptive tree?
I can not say I have the answers. I do not think there are perfect magic words you can say, as every child and adoption is different. But I think the above poem gets pretty darn close.
I pray I get to meet my child’s birthmother and father. I also hope my child will have a relationship with them in some way. However, no matter what, I am determined to show my child the love they have received from all of their parents. Deep everlasting love.